If you have to force it, you're not ready.
How to get started and experience one Some women may hit this high note during pentrative anal sex with their partner's penis, while others get there via lighter touching or using toys.
If you're experiencing amazing sensations but you're not quite reaching climax but you keep trying, take a deep breath—and take the idea of having an orgasm off the table.
Andrea Barrica, founder of the sexual education website O.
What does this kind of orgasm feel like? The muscles will open up naturally so the plug or finger can go inside.
Try staying in the moment when you explore the sensations of anal play.
The pudendal nerve carries sensation to and from your perineum, reaching your vagina, vulva, and anus, too.
Once you're relaxed and ready, begin with a tongue or finger to gently stimulate the area of the anus.