In essence, recovery is a movement away from ego and toward a love of self and others.
However, take the alcohol away but that does not mean the issues go.
Clearly dating a few weeks, and recovery period.
How does he treat animal? If something were to happen to my husband I wouldn't get involved with someone who even had a hint of addiction issues.
It maybe possible to pressure him or threaten him into giving sobriety another try as things get worse, but that brings me to 4.
One who you are you.
My experiences have led me to decide I will never take the risks I see associated with a relationship with a RA.